We all need friends to help us survive the stress of college but finding those friends can be a little scary if you’re a shy girl like me.

First day of college. Your room is unpacked. Your parents are gone. And this might very well be the farthest you’ve ever been from home. You had your group of friends in high school, but now you feel like you have to start from scratch. I had always been so shy growing up, and honestly, the thought of tackling college alone was terrifying. Of course, there were some lonely nights, but I found my people along the way. So, if you are like me- here are some lessons that helped me to not only find myself but to find my people.

  1. Be a “yes man.” College is a time full of social invitations from a variety of people. Parties, club events, dates, spontaneous road trips, etc. If we get into the habit of saying yes rather than coming up with explanations as to why we can’t do something, then people will continue to invite us to do fun things with them. Of course, it’s important to keep your priorities in line, but I would suggest that forming a social support system is a priority in college.
  2. Join clubs and get involved in things that actually interest you. If you love chess, join the chess club. If you just want to play ping pong, then join the ping pong club. You will find your people doing things that you actually enjoy. Common interests? Look no further.
  3. Unplug. Nowadays, our first reaction is to put in our Air Pods, turn them to noise cancellation mode, and then scroll through our Instagram feed while we ride the elevator. I know I am guilty of this. But what better way to break out of our comfort zone and make friends than acknowledging the other person in the elevator and making small talk. Who knows? Maybe you’ll make a friend. Or maybe you’ll just practice your social skills. Both are good.
  4. Make as many plans with different people as you can. You never know who you will get along with until you give them a chance. Hang out with people from your classes. People that you meet sitting out on the grass. People from the clubs you attend. It never hurts to have more friends and more of a social support system.
  5. Be yourself. Don’t change who you are or what you like just to fit in with certain crowds. You won’t enjoy spending time with them, and you won’t feel good. Stay true to who you are. Even if it takes longer to make friends, at least they will be friends that really understand you.

And don’t worry if it takes a bit longer than expected. Put yourself out there and meet new people, and you will be pleasantly surprised at how many quality friends you will find. And if you want to learn how to make some friends while also making some money, click here.

Friends laugh while working on homework in a local café. (Image by Brooke Cagle on Unsplash)

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